Can I be friends with other women?

[westmac]

Hi everyone... my girlfriend and I have been together for about two years. We are very serious and have talked at length about the possibility of marriage in our future. My only problem with her is that she is absolutely adamant that it is inappropriate for me to have any friendship or contact with any other woman I have ever had a relationship with, as well as any girl that is remotely good looking. Many of my good friends are very old ex-girlfriends of some sort and I feel like I am being cut off from a network of very important people in my life.

For the most part the friendships are pretty normal. Calls here and there and maybe lunch or text messages from time to time. However, every once in a while after being out drinking with friends, I will get a call or make a call and catch up... a drunk dial if you will.

Anyway, she has spoken to several friends and family members and is convinced that she could never be with someone that values such unconscionable relationships. I'm hoping someone can give me a neutral, honest assmesment of what is okay and not okay as far as friendships with the opposite sex outside of a serious relationship and/or marriage.

Thanks!

[MAGGIE11793]

ok, Here is the thing behind that. Ex-girlfriends can be your friend when you are a single. Not when you are actually in a relationship. My opinion is that you have already had a connection with these other females that you now have with your current girlfriend. If you really think about it from her perspective, would you enjoy her speaking with other guys? How would that make you feel? It may spark insecurity in your relationship. I am not saying cut them off but in situations like this, its best not to even let your ex's get in the way of your current.

[sarah_9]

Their is no harm in having friendship with other women, even if you are in relationship. May be your girlfriend did not trust you, because of your previous behavior or any other cause, explain it to her that your relationship with other females is totally different, it is just a casual friendship and everybody needs few true friends in their life even if they have any BF or GF. Be honest and truthful to your self and towards your friends espescailly with your girl friend.



Regards,
sarah_9


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