Count Your Blessings

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Relationship Tip #38
Count Your Blessings

Every relationship has its challenges, peaks, valleys, successes, problems and issues that
Can have either a positive or negative impact on the quality of the relationship.

There is a psychological concept that states, “you get more of what you focus on.” In other words what you pay conscious attention to you tend to increase in your life or relationship. Focus on lack, what is missing, and you will get more lack. Focus on what is working and positive and you get more of that as well.

In a recent article for my popular newsletter Life Balance, called Microscope or Telescope, I shared with my readers how people in a new love or relationship tend to look at the relationship through a telescope. They don’t see many of the little aggravations, idiosyncrasies or behaviors of their partner that might otherwise upset or cause them stress. In a relationship that is failing the parties tend to look at the relationship through a microscope, micro-managing every little word, behavior, though and issue.

One of the common traits of happy and successful people (and these always don’t go together) is that they are grateful for their blessings. They live with an attitude of gratitude. They may want more, better, different, less or something they don’t have, but they are thankful for what they do have NOW.

How about you? Are you thankful for the blessings that you have with someone that you are in a relationship with?

It is easy to want to see what isn’t there or isn’t working. It takes maturity, commitment, love, forgiveness, acceptance and compassion to view your partner through positive eyes even though they may be falling short of your ideal.