Emotional Maturity

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Self Motivation Tips #101
Emotional Maturity

The ability to control your emotions and take full responsibility for your life and its opportunities and dramas is one of the key skills necessary for success, balance and happiness. There may be times during life when it is appropriate to feel guilt, anger, resentment, fear, jealousy, disappointment, grief, insecure, blame and hundreds of other feelings due either to your belief system and values or the circumstances and people that life throws in your path. Some people have the ability to experience these various emotions and then let them go quickly leaving no long term negative residual effects. Other’s, on the other hand seem to remain stuck in any one of these negative emotions, to their detriment, I might add.

Emotional maturity is the ability to see life clearly. To deal in - what is. Not what can be or was. This doesn’t mean to imply that a person shouldn’t dream, hope, plan, set goals and have desire for a better future. It only means that life is lived in the present not the future. Any negative emotions in the present that are permitted more time or energy than they deserve, will tend to take their toll on some aspect of your life in the future.

Emotional maturity is the ability to deal in what is and to see what caused what is as a part of the ongoing process and drama of life. To expect life to be easy or comfortable all the time is to be naïve. To expect life to be hard and challenging all the time is to come at life from a consciousness of struggle. There is no need to struggle. There is no need to beat yourself or others up emotionally because of your unrealistic expectations for life and the people who are in your life.

Emotional maturity is a quiet acceptance of the ebb and flow of life’s issues, opportunities, difficulties, challenges, risks, mistakes, failures, achievements, growth and whatever else is put on your plate regardless of whether you are 20, 40 or 70 years old. Whether you are wealthy or destitute, single or married, working or retired. With emotional maturity you will:

• Make better decisions
• Make better choices
• Have more fun
• Have less stress
• Make more money
• Have better balance in life.

So it certainly makes sense to achieve as much of it as you can as you travel through life.