Resilience

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Success Tips #222
Resilience

One of the critical skills for ongoing success is the ability to bounce back from adversity. Sooner or later in life, everyone experiences failure, disappointment, and setbacks, or loses the desire or purpose to keep on keeping on. I know, I certainly have had my share of personal disappointment, discouragement and failure. Numerous times I just wanted to scream – how much more do I have to take?

Just because you have failed, doesn’t mean you are a failure. Just because you have achieved success, that doesn’t make you a success. Many people have hit bottom, only to climb out and achieve greatness later in life, and many people have done great things easily or early in life only to end up broke, alone and without any lasting feeling of accomplishment.

There has to be more to life than having everything, knowing everything and doing everything. There is, but its value will often be lost to you while you are in this relentless search for more. Resilience is not just about attracting and accumulating outside-in stuff, but gaining in inside-out wisdom, understanding, compassion, trust and patience.

Success and failure are neutral concepts. What makes either of them positive or negative in your life is not the event, circumstance or situation, but what you do with them along the path of life. No one that I have ever met has had a life filled with nothing but failure or only one success after another. Resilience is your ability to keep coming back, again and again and again. No matter how many times life throws you a curve or brings you to your knees, you try again - you try something, new, something different, or something old in a new way. You refuse to give in or up. Here are a few ideas to consider when you feel like quitting.

• It is temporary.
• You need it to learn a valuable lesson.
• You need it to be softened by life.
• You need it to give your life more integrity or character.
• You need it to be an example for others.
• You need it to rid yourself of some arrogance or ignorance.
• You need it to grow in some area of your life.
• You need it to learn to laugh at yourself.
• You need it to learn to live in the present.
• You need it to learn to take life less seriously.

Regardless of your current station in life or circumstances, you can rise again. All you have to do is reach inside and find the courage, strength, stamina, attitudes, self-belief, self-confidence, and passion and then rekindle your desire for what you believe you can do, will do, were meant to do, love to do or want to do.

Hang on to your dream no matter how big it might seem to you. And don’t let others convince you that you can’t do it, won’t do it or shouldn’t do it. Be true to yourself and your destiny. You have everything you need, right now, inside of you to carry on. All you have to do is do it. But, be sure and enjoy the ride because once you have reached the mountaintop where do you go from there? Another mountain? Eventually you will discover that the view from the top of the mountain has more to do with what is in you than what is on the mountain.

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One problem with people is that they are afraid to fail just once. But if you look back on your life, they way you learned the best is by failing. I don't think i've met a single person who never fell off their bicycle as a kid.

I remember a quote by Michale Jordan that talks about all of his failures.

"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

He has failed over and over again, but he still had huge success in his career because he persisted and got back up when he failed.